I take regular shit from people who don’t enjoy that weight training is one of my non-negotiable romantic requirements. Yes, correct, if a man doesn’t train properly with weights on a regular basis I do not want to be involved with him romantically and yes that line is firm, much like my cheeks after glute day. If you don’t like that, you can suck my bizzity bawls.
If you are in your mid-30s or beyond and you are not weight training, you are a straight up liability to yourself and whoever you’re with (I believe maintaining your fitness is part of the romantic contract.) I fully admit I came to lifting late in life (38) but now I’m in for the long haul, like ‘til death do me and the gym part. To be clear, when I say weight training, I’m not talking about overtraining (more than 3-4 days a week imho) or starving/dehydrating yourself into looking like a human hot dog with a 6-pack so you can take cool videos for instagram—I’m talking about following a reasonable program with reasonable expectations for your body type to build (or maintain, depending on goals) muscle, keep metabolism running as it should, maintain bone density and take care of your mental health.
Weight training is not all about what your body looks like—it’s also about discipline, accountability, strength (in all senses), consistency, proper nutrition and sleep and probably more stuff I’m forgetting but I’ll be damned if these aren’t also essential qualities for a high-functioning romantic relationship.
While I understand it’s essential to be flexible/open in the pursuit of partnership, I also know what it’s like to live with less and it doesn’t work for anyone involved. There’s a lot more that I’m after beyond just a fellow gym bro, but it’s a solid place to start as a means to weed men out (I’m just looking for one; despite 11 years in Austin I’m still not polyamorous). No gym, no thank you. Now kindly get off my nuts about it and go hydrate yourself and find a trainer and a squat rack and level up your life. Happy New Year!
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